How To Control Ego

Ego is a complex syndrome. It covers both conscious and sub conscious levels of life. A man’s enemy doesn’t exist in the outside world but inside the human body. Most people, whether successful, great or ambitious, experienced the consequences of ‘ego’ once in their lifetime. The psychological term ‘ego’ is ‘I’ that refer to the personality trait. Ego is a person’s sense of self-esteem or self- importance. An egoist is a person who feels superior to others. It is a feeling of pride in one’s superiority towards others. In other words, it reflects a person’s sense of ‘self’.

In real everyday life, ego is considered a big impediment. The voice that is inside one’s body speaks about the source of so much worry. A healthy ego can sort out everything. A bad ego becomes the root cause of one’s downfall. Self-centredness, insecurity, anxiety and problem in maintaining human relations could lead to negative effects of uncontrolled ego. One of the challenges is that ego separates one from the others. A man of ego leads a life of supremacy, rivalry, aggression, and conflict. Such a man can be his own worst enemy. He fosters selfishness and lack of empathy.  This further leads to problems in personal and professional relationships.

Once the relations are damaged, his sense of ‘ego’ exhibits the negative side of his life. In order to control his ego, he has to adopt the concept of ‘self-awareness’, meditation, and a compassionate approach towards others. Humility is a virtue.  All comparisons must be avoided. Acknowledgement of mistakes is the best practice by which one can come out of ‘ego’. The ego is so focused on the self; it tends to make you forget the bigger picture. Mistakes are our greatest teachers. They provide us with lessons as well as stories to help prevent others from making the same mistakes. 

Detachment from emotion acts like a syrup for a man of ego.  One must remember one's commitment to one's personal vision and mission. When we’re focused on the bigger picture, our ego driven feelings becomes irrelevant and trivial. In fact, our minds suddenly forget our egos exist. A man of immense ego must cultivate humility, appreciation, gratitude and empathy. Seeking feedback is one of the ways and means to control one’s ‘ego’. A positive talk supported by emotional intelligence will control the ego.

Ego is the immediate dictate of human consciousness, according to Carl Jung, a Swiss psychiatrist and psychotherapist. Accordingly, man loses his consciousness out of ego. Mistakes serve as the best source of learning. Embracing one’s mistakes could control ego in the larger interest of the individual. All good virtues should be cultivated and all bad qualities should be avoided. Appreciation of others is a genuine portrayal of the positive image of personality. Having ‘ego’ is having poison in the mind. A poison can kill the body forever. Ego is self-destructive. People must follow leaders who maintain healthy ego and who have successfully come out of ‘ego’.